Every person who has been a part of your life came into it for a specific purpose. That purpose could have been to break your heart. Maybe it was to take advantage of you or to be there for you when you needed a shoulder to cry on. Perhaps they took the form of a teacher or mentor who illuminated a better path to walk. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter why people come and go from your life. The lessons they teach you, on the other hand, are important to pay attention to. We are all teachers who serve different lessons. You have entered the lives of countless people to provide a wide variety of experiences to them. Every person you have crossed paths with has done the same to you. Not all of these experiences are enjoyable or intended, not at all. But is there a reason why you have crossed paths with the people who have? The truth is, you play out certain experiences with people because you have a karmic agreement with them, also known as a soul contract. As random and spontaneous as life seems, your life has been intricately orchestrated by higher forces. Some call this karma, others call it destiny. But how deep does this rabbit hole go? Let’s explore it.
A soul contract is a spiritual agreement with another soul, to undergo a particular mutual experience for soul growth. Imagine it as the terms and conditions for your incarnation, in which you will have a plethora of experiences with other souls. Life on Earth provides the opportunity for different relationships to manifest, and particular lessons to be gained through them. People enter your life to fulfill an agreement created before incarnating. Everyone has soul contracts as they build the map of your life experiences, and what you came here to learn. Soul contracts are karmic relationships. You may agree to be victimized by someone, or perhaps be a casualty of war to burn off karma and to experience that form of suffering to accrue wisdom within it. You agreed to have the parents you have. Perhaps you have amazing parents who show you unconditional love and support, in which case would be the fruit of positive karma. Perhaps your parents were abusive, or neglectful, and your soul chose to have this experience to burn off karma. Before you incarnate, you agree to certain experiences that you will undergo in this lifetime. These experiences are agreed upon depending on what lessons your soul needs to learn.
Look at Earth as a spiritual classroom. Souls make agreements before incarnating here, which is like deciding the teachers you’re going to have during this lifetime. These teachers teach different lessons (and subjects) in different ways, but they all ultimately serve the soul’s evolution. Everyone is interconnected within an intricate web of experiences. The nature of these experiences will be very different from person to person. Every major experience that you have was agreed upon by all parties involved in that experience. Souls come into your life in the form of family, friends, lovers, acquaintances, clients, influences, and even the person who cut you off in traffic. Everyone who enters your life does so to teach you a specific lesson, as you do by entering theirs. These lessons range considerably, from showing someone that they deserve love, to being responsible for their death. Whether this is the relationship between a perpetrator and victim, or a politician and the people his policies affect, we have agreed to experience what we experience in this lifetime one way or another.
Let’s say you get into a toxic relationship with a narcissist, and you develop some pretty severe trauma because of it. You may have signed up for a lesson to love yourself more deeply and to have stronger boundaries which this experience facilitated. Perhaps the narcissist needs to learn not to abuse their power, otherwise, they will lose what they love. This is an example of karmic entanglement. Everyone involved in the contract learns something that they need to learn, and that’s why these souls made that particular agreement. The experience that you have is matched with someone else’s experience who needs to learn a similar lesson. Karmic entanglement can span over many lifetimes. Souls may have experienced many lifetimes where the contract stands because they haven’t yet learned the lesson: So they’re bound to continue repeating the same lessons in different forms. These souls will continue to enter each other’s lives with a different nature of relationship, but the same dynamic will take place until they both finally learn the lesson embedded in the contract. On the other hand, if you learn what you need to learn, you will not need to play out that same nature of relationship because your soul no longer needs it.
From my understanding, soul contracts can’t be broken, Here’s my reasoning. Your soul is an infinitely wise consciousness that surely knows what it’s doing. If a soul made a contract to learn a lesson, then there is probably a good reason why it did so. Think about it this way; why would you create a contract you would break? You might say ‘That’s not true, I’ve broken soul contracts, we decide if we want to follow through with that lesson’. But how do you know what the lesson is? Furthermore, what does breaking a soul contract look like to you? Is it to stand up for yourself and tell someone you won’t tolerate it anymore? Is breaking a contract telling a thief not to steal from you? From my perspective, isn’t this playing out the contract? Maybe the lesson you’re supposed to learn is to say enough and regain your power. Maybe the lesson was to feel defeated and give up. In this sense, you’re still playing out your soul contracts, whether you know you’re doing it or not. I believe there is nothing you can do about your soul contracts as they exist for a reason. Voiding a contract would void the lesson you need to learn, so you wouldn’t benefit from it anyway. If we could simply opt out of painful experiences, then there would be no more suffering. There would be no more rape, murder, war, horror. But somehow, I don’t think censoring our human experience would do our souls any good. The major events that happen in your life were supposed to happen for your spiritual growth, and part of being a human is to play out those major events. By being aware of your contracts, you can recognize the different relationships that take place within your life, and navigate them with more ease and understanding.
